Would people buy you?

From day one of your life, the way you act determines how people perceive you. You most likely do not remember what you acted like as a baby, but you have probably been told. Did people say you were finicky or well behaved as a baby? Time progressed you decided (consciously or not) that you were going to become your own person. When you first were developing your brand, it was most likely rocky. For those of you that said you were perfection as a child, you are wrong. Children are a mess because you are growing and learning. Maybe you were independent as a child and you wanted to make your own decisions. Maybe you depended on your parents to do everything for you. The best part about your childhood? It does not matter now. Then you turned into a teenager and things seem more meaningful than they used to. You may not have been the best student. You could have even been a rebel; you could have been a well behaved teen who did exactly what they were supposed to do. Same concept as childhood; it does not matter now, but for some reason people insist on using their past to determine who they should be as an adult. Let's recap, from birth through teenage years, what you did does not determine who you can become. As an adult, you are allowed to decide exactly what type of person you want to be. However, people keep the labels they have been given their entire life to decide how they are going to act. You have never had the ability to determine what you were going to be labeled. Someone is always there to assign you a label. As much as you hate it, it happens. How funny is it that the only time you were allowed to act exactly like yourself without the influence of labels and people telling you how to act or feel, you do not remember because you were too little? I have always strongly believed that you should say, do, react, and feel exactly how you want to when it is necessary. (obviously not to drastic extents or else we would have a blood bath of a mess on our hands...) But really. Your actions and feelings are yours. You get to decide how you feel and what you do. Why should you neglect what is natural to you in order to please others? No wonder the human race has been stuck in this terrible world of awful for such a long time. We all keep living by one guy's standards (sorry ladies, but we can pretty much guarantee that it was a man) You are told "no, you can't do that" or "you have to do that, but you have to do it this way". Who decided that?! No one even remembers anymore. Like your emotions as a child, once time passes things need to change. You cannot live by the same standards just because you are told you have to. We are all free to make our own decisions and we all need to embrace that. I've been listening to a few audios that talk about altering feelings and changing the way you view certain situations in order to eliminate the emotions that most people do not want to go through (such as frustration, loneliness, etc) If you open your brain up to new possibilities you can realize things that you never thought were even possible. You may need to change your plan of action, but hey you progress by moving forward, not by standing still. So many of us chose to only live in the box we have created around ourselves and when you do that you become subconsciously stuck because on the inside you "know" that you will never leave that box. It's time to break out of that box. Anything is possible; no matter how improbable, it could happen. You can change anything you feel or any situation you are in. You need to will it to happen. The choices you make and how you decide to grow as a person are what makes a person decide if they like you. How many friends does a loner with a bad personality have? Not very many. People buy emotions and actions. It has been said that "people buy people", but they really buy what that person is about. Never sell yourself short of what you know you want to be. It is your choice to decide who to be. Would people buy you?

A little nonsense can be a good thing

I am one to talk about exactly what I am thinking no matter how inappropriate the situation. Thank goodness I have this blog or I would have many grumpy people listening to me go on and on about Tuukka, Market America, and my love of shopping. Many of these people believe these ramblings are nonsense and are going to hold me back. I beg to differ though because without nonsense we would not have creativity. Who ever believed that a little box of metal and plastic, that some today would question was a computer, would one day connect the entire world? How many do you think way-back-when thought that electricity would one day be a thing? They probably thought those ideas were just...nonsense. I have started to catch myself when I realize I am crushing others' dreams. Collectively, as a human race we have started to believe in only one mind set. There are rules for how you should be thinking and you are exiled and made fun of if you do not believe in this way. I finally completed a book about Steve Jobs (I'm a slow reader) and even though I hated him for a good majority of the book, I enjoyed the person he turned into. Many of us start out believing that we know everything and that we are the only person that matters. Even though this can get you much of what you want when you wanted, it hurts so many others. I have tried to solve others' problems recently, or at least help them come up with a solution. Everyone has their problems whether it be loans, relationship problems, weight problems, kid problems, hating their job, hating where they are in life. I have problems of my own sure, but my problems are going to be solved with time and growing. What is the point of me sitting there worrying about my problems when there are so many other's that can be solved with my help? My nonsense is going nowhere and will be there when I need to start focusing on them. I enjoy helping people so I decided to spend my time more productively and do so. What has been bothering me lately is that people are so wrapped up in their own problems that they are getting no where to get out of them. I know this is a little taboo for most of you, but I have found that most problems solve themselves when you aren't focused on them. Problems depress people. When people focus on the problem, people stay depressed. Stretch your wings, folks. Do something that makes you happy!! What is the point in being depressed about something that is not going to change over night? Are you going to come up with $2,000 overnight to pay off your credit card? Are you going to lose 30 lbs in a day? Are your kids going to behave with one stern talking to? I'm sorry to say that the answer is no. On the flip side, do you think you are going to feel better seeing a friend for a cup of coffee? Do you think that walk is going to calm your nerves and kill some stress? Do you think taking your kids out for ice cream will make them a little more bearable for the night? Yes. Would you all rather be worrying about that nonsense or have fun doing nonsense. Nonsense as a thought can be detrimental and haunt you, but nonsense as an action can be powerful and wonderful. Don't think nonsense, do nonsense. Get out there and live your life. Stop questioning everything and go out and do. One of my favorite quotes comes from kids t.v. show. "Take chances, get messy, and make mistakes." That's the way to do it, loves.